This is amazing! Really unbelievable...
Read together with my wife (PU2VYT)
and we are laughing high and long. hi hi
It's a good piece of marriage therapy!!
Best 73 - Vitor
----- Original Message -----
From: "Jim Idelson" <k1ir@designet.com>
To: "CQ-Contest Post" <cq-contest@contesting.com>
Sent: Friday, September 01, 2006 3:04 PM
Subject: [CQ-Contest] A Wife Strategy for Contesters [aka Contest Ploys for
Wives]
>A discussion of wives came up on the YCCC reflector early this year - it
>was
> right around Valentine's Day. Here's the post I made back then . . .
>
> ********** START WIFE STRATEGY FOR CONTESTERS **********
>
> Ok, Friends. The Doctor is IN. We need to talk about this whole Wife
> thing.
>
> You have a Station Strategy. You have an Operating Strategy. To be an
> effective
> contester, you must also have a Wife Strategy.
>
> A Wife is the most important person in a contester's life. She has
> complete
> control over the contester's ability to be competitive. She actually has
> control of both of your critical resources - Money and Time. You know that
> and
> She knows that.
>
> So, if you expect to do well you must be treated well by your Wife. How do
> you
> accomplish that? You must go out of your way to make sure your Wife is
> Happy.
> All good things flow from having a Happy Wife. To make a Happy Wife, you
> need
> to understand how a Wife works. A Wife has a limited set of basic needs:
> - Security
> - Love
> - Evidence of above
>
> There are a few other facts about a Wife that you need to know.
> - A Wife is very conscious of Her Feelings. She knows when She is Happy
> and
> when she is Sad.
> - Only Her Feelings matter. It doesn't matter what she thinks about you,
> your
> buddies or contesting.
> - She needs to share Her Feelings with everyone in Her environment. If
> She is
> Happy, everyone else must be Happy. Same for Sad.
> - A Wife's Feelings have a half-life of 6-12 hours. [Under certain
> conditions
> this can be as low as 20 minutes.]
> - As the Feelings diminish, external stimulus can regenerate them.
> - Larger amounts of stimulus can generate higher levels of Feelings
> [let's
> remain focused on Happy Feelings here]. But, remember that the half-life
> is
> still dominant.
> - The transition from Happy to Sad is not smooth. Each Wife has a unique
> Feelings Transition Point [FTP]. You will need to perform experiments to
> determine this point for your specific Wife.
>
> Next concepts to understand:
> - Secure + Loved = Happy [Happy includes Relaxed, Self-Sufficient,
> Trusting,
> Empathetic]
> - Insecure + Not Loved = Sad [Sad includes Stressed, Needy, Suspicious,
> Antagonistic]
>
> You provide Her with Security and Love. No doubt about that. But, does the
> way
> you do it match the particular needs of your specific Wife? Have you
> pushed Her
> Feelings level high enough so that you can get through a contest before
> She has
> to face Her FTP?
>
> Practical Techniques - Security
> - Overtly state that you are there for your Wife and Kids
> - Make and keep family commitments
> - Assure your Wife that you will spend time with Her at a specific date
> and
> time
> - Demonstrate your commitment to Her security - fix something in the
> house,
> buy furniture
>
> Practical Techniques - Love
> - Overtly declare your love for your Wife [ok if done privately with Her;
> creates even higher level of Happy Feelings if done in front of others]
> - Romantic gifts are effective - flowers, cards, photographs, jewelry.
> Note
> that item cost does not have a dramatic impact.
> - S*x - [Be careful with this one during the contest, particularly in
> multi's]
>
> Practical Techniques - Timing and Frequency
> - Bear in mind that effects of simultaneous actions do not tend to be
> additive.
> - Sequential actions tend to be cummulative.
> - Spread it out.
> - Ramp up in the week prior to the contest.
> - A major push on Thursday night is usually a good tactic, followed by
> actions
> timed at 3-4 hour intervals right up to the start of the contest.
> - Set and meet expectations in the days following the contest.
>
> Advanced Tip #1
> - Anticipate the possiblity that FTP may still occur during the contest
> period. What can you do?
> - Take action during the contest. Invest in a momentary Security or Love
> Boost
> during a low-rate hour.
> - This investment can be very powerful. She knows you prefer to be in
> front of
> the radio. When you come upstairs for as little as one minute just to say
> you
> Love Her, Her Happy Feelings level will soar [temporarily]. But you have
> potentially fended off a major onslaught, just by helping Her stay
> comfortably
> above FTP.
>
> Advanced Tip #2
> - Understand that regularity is not always the best state of affairs.
> - A temporary absence may help reinforce the value of your presence.
> - Occassional smaller gifts may help reinforce the value of your
> presents.
> - Be careful. Always try to stay above FTP; experiment with this concept
> judiciously.
>
> Advanced Tips #3A and #3B
> - Remember that the Kids are simply an extension of the Wife.
> - A - Focus on the Wife and She will take care of the Kids.
> - B - Focusing on the Kids directly impacts Wife Happy levels. A good
> 'under-the-radar' strategy.
>
> Advanced Tip #4
> - Surprise Her sometimes
> - Planned and expected actions that make Her feel Secure and Loved are
> great,
> but the same actions done spontaneously or unexpectedly have higher
> impact.
> - For several weeks, She has been asking you to repair the leaky kitchen
> faucet. You have choices: a) next time She asks, you say ok and do it, b)
> when
> She is out, you take three hours to fix it and She is pleasantly surprised
> when
> She discovers what you've done, or c) when She is out, you have a plumber
> fix
> it while you build a new amplifier, and when She discovers the repair She
> is
> pleasantly surprised AND She compliments you on the superb quality of your
> work.
>
> Summary
> - Your Wife is critical to your contesting efforts
> - Adopt a Wife Strategy
> - Understand the interplay of Security and Love with Happy and Sad
> - Be aware of your Wife's FTP
> - Apply a variety of techniques
> - Keep it up year-round
> - Submit better contest scores
> - Apply beyond contesting
>
> ********** END WIFE STRATEGY FOR CONTESTERS **********
>
> 73,
>
> Jim Idelson K1IR
> email k1ir at designet.com
> web http://www.k1ir.com
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